When I ask friends what is most important they will say “quiet time with God.” We gather over cups of hot coffee and talk about finding quiet time for God. Somewhere between work, relationships, children, friends, chores, shopping, paying bills and cooking dinner, a woman desires for alone time with God. Is this quiet time possible with so many demands on our precious time?
Often a woman’s strongest desire is to have an intimate relationship with God. Yet this is her lowest priority in her time management.
She’ll tell me she missed devotional time because she battled with her son over unfinished homework. Her boss called for overtime work and she missed the weekly Bible study group. She waited in line to buy a fast food meal, then neglected to pray while eating from the front seat of her car. Finally home, a pile of unsorted laundry rests on her unmade bed. She is so tired from her day, she just falls down into an exhausted sleep.
Unable to pursue her goal for quiet time with God, she begins tomorrow with disappointment and anger. Chaos ensues in her constant struggle for what she calls “balance.” Or perhaps like my friend Xochitl Dixon, author of Waiting for God, she is seeking a renewal in hard times.
Yet we know from our own experience that women are finding time and intimacy with God. Some are Seeking Him in personal revival. Others have adjusted their mindset and placed God-moments into their day planners. These intentional women are making adjustments, such as:
- Adjusting time spent with friends
- Letting go of some television shows
- Waking up an hour earlier
- Cutting down on volunteer hours
- Shortening social media interactions
But friends are important. Keeping informed and watching the news is important. Getting rest and sleep is important. Volunteering is important. Social media is important for those who work online or feel isolated at home. Life is important.
Let me ask you this: If you had five minutes to live, would you do these “important” things? Do you need a life-threatening event to ignite your intimacy with God?
If you have experienced a life threatening event, most likely you found God in the storm. You know what it feels like to be close to God. You know Him as your Friend, Counselor, Protector, and Father. This motivates you to spend more time in His presence.
You study the Bible, praise His name, attend church service and join a Bible study. Over time, you may again be afflicted with a boredom of faith. Maybe you feel church is boring after 20 years with the same pastor. Perhaps Scripture is overly familiar and you know the ending of all the Bible stories. You allow the flame of faith- to extinguish again.
All these thoughts saturate your once intimate mind, and once again, you’re Satan’s prey.
It is not easy to release the clutches of Satan when he makes life seem more comfortable. Yet the benefit of resisting him is a lifelong intimacy with God. Your heart, soul and mind are filled with the Holy Spirit. God becomes your best friend. Are you really too busy for God?
What can you do to seek intimacy with God?
- read a daily devotional
- read a passage of Scripture
- play worship music in your home
- learn a prayer method from another generation
- memorize a Bible verse
- soak in the Scriptures with an online study such as Seamless
Don’t tell God you’re too busy or you’ll spend time with him as a New Year’s Resolution. Stop putting the King of Kings, lover of your soul… on a backburner for another day!
Life is not about being busy, it’s about celebrating your relationship with a LIVING God.
Special note for Moms of toddlers: there was a time when I was so exhausted and overwhelmed, I crawled into the back seat of my minivan and slept! Another time I started a hot bath, locked my bedroom door, and spent this time reading my Bible. When the bath cooled down I jumped into the bath for the remainder of my “Mom time.” Eventually I partnered with a woman from my local Mom’s Club. On Tuesday I watched her children and on Thursday she watched mine. This helped us manage our personal time while taking care of toddlers full-time. Do not isolate yourself in your season of caretaking. A MOPS Community can become a helpful resource!
I am here for you. Cheering you on as a friend in Christ. Reach out to me by email for encouragement or prayer.
CHRISTINE ABRAHAM | BIBLE CAFE™ MINISTRIES LLC
Founder & Executive Director
CHRISTINE ABRAHAM has been a parachurch director and womens ministry leader for 10+ years. She earned a Graduate of Theology degree in Biblical Studies from Liberty University. As Executive Director of the Bible Cafe™ Christine has facilitated nondenominational Bible studies for women around the world. She writes Bible Study Companion Guides for bestselling authors. She is a popular Christian Life & Leadership Coach. Married 25+ years she lives in California with her husband and two college daughters.